By Marine Corps Cpl. Elizabeth Gleason
Marine Corps Recruit Depot San Diego
SAN DIEGO, Feb. 25, 2013 – Since Marine Corps Lance Cpl. Ryan
Nicolai was a boy, he felt a calling to serve his country as a United
States Marine.
 With
perspective he gained from the loss of his parents, Marine Corps Lance
Cpl. Ryan Nicolai graduated with honors from recruit training at Marine
Corps Recruit Depot San Diego. U.S. Marine Corps photo by Cpl. Elizabeth
Gleason (Click photo for screen-resolution image);high-resolution image available. |
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But before he could follow his dream, he knew his duty was to take
care of his parents. In the years before he left for recruit training,
he gained the life experience that would propel him through the hard
times yet to come.
In 2011, Nicolai lost his father, a retired
Marine, to amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, also known as Lou Gehrig’s
Disease. Months before the loss of his father, his mother was diagnosed
with cancer. Shortly after what he thought to be a turning point in his
mother’s illness, Nicolai decided to enlist in the Marine Corps and
follow in his father’s footsteps.
Nicolai joined the Delayed
Entry Program, which allows recruits to enlist in the military and
specify a future reporting date for entry. As his mother’s condition
worsened, Nicolai postponed his ship date until he was no longer able
to. He shipped out to recruit training Nov. 26, and joined Platoon 2151,
Company G, 2nd Recruit Training Battalion here.
Three weeks
after his arrival, drill instructors escorted Nicolai to the company
office. “They told me that the Red Cross called, and my mom had died,”
he said. “Losing my dad was the only thing that helped prepare me a
little bit for losing my mom.”
Nicolai’s mother died the day
before initial drill, an evaluation that tests recruits on their drill
knowledge and skills, but he stayed and completed it before flying home
to be with his family, said Marine Corps Gunnery Sgt. Enrique Lopez, his
senior drill instructor.
Soon, Nicolai was on an airplane, headed back to the depot to finish his training.
“Coming to recruit training the first time was hard, but it was harder
coming back the second time,” said Nicolai, a 22-year-old Medina, Ohio
native. “When I got back, I was losing focus, and I was always
frustrated. I didn’t want to get up anymore. I wasn’t the same.”
With the guidance of his drill instructors, Nicolai said, he realized
that although he was struggling, he had to push through and continue.
Through the hardship, he kept the position as guide that he had earned
early on in recruit training.
“I’m pretty sure he still thinks
about it, but he doesn’t let it get in his way of being guide,” Lopez
said. “He motivates the other recruits, because they saw him stay strong
through what he was going through. He set the example for them.”
Through his loss, Nicolai said, he gained a new perspective on life that helped him finish recruit training.
“I was sitting at medical and had a realization that I defined myself
by what I gave up for my parents,” he added. “Taking care of my parents
is who I was -- it’s what I did. When my mom died, that part of my life
was over.
“I didn’t know what I was going to do,” he continued.
“I was at recruit training trying to become a Marine, but I hadn’t made
it what defined me. All of a sudden, I knew where I wanted to be and
what I wanted to do, I want to lead and take care of Marines.”
Through it all, Nicolai’s drive, knowledge, spirit and perseverance not
only earned him the title Marine, but also led him to graduate as the
company honor man, the recruit who demonstrated the highest level of
leadership throughout recruit training.
Nicolai’s motivation and
knowledge of the Marine Corps and life showed throughout training and
set the example for all recruits, Lopez said.
“I am who I am
today because of my parents,” Nicolai said. “If it wasn’t for my parents
who were loving, strict and iron-willed, I wouldn’t be where I am now.”