By Capt. Jerry Novack, 96th Medical Group / Published
November 30, 2015
EGLIN AIR FORCE BASE, Fla. (AFNS) -- It's that time of year
again. All things pumpkin spice become all things peppermint; television
networks start showing nostalgic, holiday-themed movies; in northwest Florida,
we complain about cold weather while the rest of the country actually deals
with winter; and I write the holiday stress mental health message.
My challenge, of course, is to write something of value not
already heard or read ad nauseam. This can be a real challenge, considering the
main stressors this time of year remain relatively constant.
Finances
I should recommend to create and stick to a holiday budget,
spend time with loved ones instead of spending money on presents, and consider
thrifty options when gift shopping. If you do these things effectively, then
you should be writing me advice -- not the other way around.
No matter how well I plan and budget, I find myself
blindsided by unexpected expenses beyond gifts. There are holiday cards,
parties, meals out, entertainment events, and postage I consistently fail to
consider. Some strategies can help with damage control, though.
I maintain my year-round savings habits by setting up
automatic, online funds transfers into retirement and savings accounts, and
limit (or eliminate) credit cards with high interest ratings. I also create a
"tighten the belt" plan for early January to help me recover from the
holiday expenses. If anyone needs help managing holiday spending, make an
appointment with a financial advisor or go to the nearest Airman and Family
Readiness Center.
Family
I adore my family. The more I miss them, the more I adore
them. Each year, I approach the holidays longing to reconnect with my siblings,
parents, nieces and nephews. By Jan. 2, I cannot wait to get away from them
again. Time with family can be simultaneously wonderful and fulfilling and
frustratingly stressful. We can get overwhelmed if we forget to schedule in
personal time or "little getaways" when visiting with family. For me,
an afternoon spent in the bookstore or at a local Brazilian jiujitsu school can
help me get some downtime, remember that I really do love these people, and
re-engage renewed and happy.
Without scheduled breaks, I get irritable and relationships
begin to rapidly deteriorate. Figure out what you need in order to manage
family visits and protect it because it matters.
Coping with sadness
For many people, the winter holidays and New Year's
celebration carries meaning and/or memories that can conjure feelings of
sadness, anxiety or grief. I hesitate to call these negative emotions because
in certain circumstances they can be not only appropriate, but helpful.
However, for some, these feelings can seem overwhelming, especially when
juxtaposed with the happiness and cheer they see around them.
First, know that feeling down is perfectly normal from time
to time. Do not forget we are resilient, even when we do not necessarily feel
that way. Also, "timeouts" are perfectly acceptable. Just like with
family visits, temporarily disengaging from holiday cheer can provide a much
needed break and enable you to reconnect with renewed excitement and joy.
If feeling overwhelmed with holiday stress, or notice that a
wingman does not seem to be coping well, reach out for help. Talk to friends,
family, chaplain or mental health providers.
Accompany the wingman to a helping professional, if she/he
refuses to go alone. If confused about the difference between family advocacy
and Airman and Family Readiness Center, just go to any helping agency. We will
get you where you need to go. The most important thing is just get the support
you or your wingman need.