by Staff Sgt. Jarad A. Denton
501st Combat Support Wing
12/18/2015 - RAF ALCONBURY, United Kingdom -- The
tinny, melodic pings of my phone's alarm pulled me from a
half-remembered dream and into the darkened reality that was 5 a.m.
For a moment I debated pressing the "dismiss" button and curling back
into my blanket - letting the "man-cold," which I'm certain was a
combination of Pneumonia, Influenza and the Bubonic plague, lull me back
into a comfortable snooze.
"Get up, Jarad," I sighed aloud, swinging my feet onto the floor in one
fluid motion, as not to disturb my wife, Jennifer - who was still
enjoying an extra few minutes of peace before our youngest daughter,
Evie, decided to rouse herself.
"'The sky's awake, so I'm awake,'" Evie often tells her mother, quoting her favorite movie of the past two years.
It's hard to believe at four-years-old, Evie hasn't known a life outside
the U.S. Air Force. This transitory, sometimes nomadic, life is her
normal. My mind began to wander to the road not taken, as I swallowed a
daily multivitamin - a sign of my inevitable descent toward middle age.
Splashing cold water on my face, I brushed those thoughts aside and
focused on my morning routine, which consisted simply of going to the
gym. Today was cardio day, I thought as I tossed my backpack into my car
and started the drive to RAF Alconbury, United Kingdom.
It was still dark when I parked at the fitness center - naturally. This
is England, we have roughly seven hours of light on any given,
cloud-covered, often rainy, winter day.
"Seven," I thought as my eyes adjusted to the light inside the gym. "I can do that - seven miles in one hour."
Resolved to my goal I stepped onto the treadmill, rationalizing - as I
do every cardio day, that it was too cold and wet to run outside,
especially with a fatal man-cold. This wasn't the first time I had run
seven miles in one hour, but lately my cardio routine had taken a
backseat to weight lifting.
"It's my gaining phase," I tell people, trying hard not to sound like
the 175-pounds of bacon grease and pizza who left for Basic Military
Training nearly seven years ago.
It's always within the first mile when my mind wanders to Jan. 13, 2009 -
the day I left my home and family for a world I knew virtually nothing
about. As I held my firstborn, nearly-3-month-old, daughter, Ari, for
what seemed like the last time, I looked up at my mother and father -
who had come to see me off.
Both had taken this road before, decades ago when the country was
plunged into a war in Vietnam. Now, their only son was following in
"The Air Force can change you for the better," my dad said, shaking my hand and pulling me into an embrace. "If you let it."
I pulled away and looked back at Ari, her wide, brown eyes scanning me
as I stared intently at her. This is for you, I thought as I handed her
to Jen. I remember being scared at that moment. I was 27, older than
most who enlisted, slower and decidedly out of shape. But, I had a
family. I had responsibilities. I had a daughter who I hoped would
understand, but deep down knew all she would recognize is her daddy was
"Was this right," I asked myself as I boarded the bus to the airport. "Was I right?"
It's hard to push past that memory during the first mile, when I
question my sanity for running anywhere without being chased. Then
again, maybe I was chased - by the memory of everything I was leaving
behind: the multiple jobs, colleges and poor decisions that amounted to a
directionless life. I couldn't afford that - not anymore, not with a
family. The day I became a parent was the day I stopped being the star
in my own life story. I just took leaving them for more than five months
to realize that.
After the second mile, I began to feel renewed - my confidence
returning. I remembered my first supervisor, now-retired, Master Sgt.
Steven Wilson, who encouraged me, with a southern accent both welcoming
and stern at the same time, to "find my 'ism."
Despite my numerous failed attempts at school, which resulted in my
father disappointingly telling me, "college may not be for everyone,"
Wilson pushed me to take my education seriously - even passionately. He
taught me my future lay between balancing what I learned with what I
could do - and he set the bar high, earning his Master's degree while he
was still a technical sergeant.
Firm, but always fair, Wilson never ceased to humble me through his
humanity - going so far as to share his own personal hell as a child who
lived with an abusive mother.
"I got punched in the face or hit with whatever she could find," he
said, candidly. "Wooden spoons, electrical cords, clothes hangers, a
hairbrush across the head - she developed an imagination for turning
anything into an instrument to clobber me with."
A little more than a year from the date I enlisted and I was writing a
story about my supervisor, my mentor, my friend, who grew up as "the
house whipping boy." How this man found the strength to overcome a life
of cruelty and go on to honorably serve his country while still being a
devoted husband and father still baffles me - and makes me feel small
for assuming the pain I felt when I left my family to make a better life
could ever measure up.
As hard and as vivid as that memory with Wilson was, it taught me the
solemn virtue of my role in the Air Force. They always tell you in
technical school, Public Affairs has a responsibility to tell the
military story. What they don't tell you is we also have a
responsibility to remember it and let it affect our lives - for better
or worse. I remember them. I remember every interview, every
conversation and every story - because they all showed me the struggles
and humanity of people far better than I could ever hope to be. Their
stories showed me that our greatness comes from the ability we have to
pick ourselves up, carry on and continue fighting.
Twenty-five minutes into my run and this is the hardest part. Not quite
halfway done, my mind and body start to argue about whether or not to
continue. Quitting would be so easy - just hit the stop button. My
rhythmic stride breaks as my fingers reach for the button that will let
me rest - so easy.
"Too easy," I whisper to myself, as I pull my hand away and remembered John Coons.
He was a 90-year-old World War II veteran when I sat down to interview
him in 2012, his face still haunted by the demons of his past.
"I was underground for 47 days in Algiers, Africa," Coons said, softly.
"They beat me with a stick and hit me with switches across my legs. All
they wanted was information."
He was only 21-years-old, a U.S. Army Soldier with the 3rd Army, 4th
Armored Division, 22nd Infantry, serving as a rifleman when he was
captured and tortured by the Nazis in a dark cave. The only thing they
left him were his shoes, and a 1921 silver dollar hidden inside - a gift
from his mother.
"You've just got to do it," he said. "Think about living to the next
day. I kept telling myself 'I have to make it, I have to make it.'"
With sexual assault, suicide awareness and overall resiliency continuing
to affect Service members, remembering what Coons went through in that
cave, only to be rescued and sent to fight in the Battle of the Bulge
after only 10 days of rest, reinforces my belief that everything is
relative, and everyone has a story.
"Old blood and guts was there," Coons said, referring to the time he met
Gen. George S. Patton. "We had come back from the front, from the
Battle of the Bulge, and had to stand for a full field inspection. He
walked up and down, looking us over. When he got to me he stopped and
said, 'good work, Soldier, you all did a hell of a job, anything I can
do for you?'"
As a brash, young private first class who had just survived torture,
starvation and the bloodiest battle of World War II, Coons said he
swallowed hard, and thought carefully before answering Patton.
"Yes, Sir," Coons said. "Before I leave this man's Army, I would like a star from your uniform."
Coons said that Patton paused, and looked him up and down before walking
away. However, something made Patton stop a few paces past Coons. He
looked back at the young private, turned around and ripped a silver star
from his uniform. Patton walked back to Coons and thrust the star into
"Boy, you guys got a lot of balls," Patton said before turning around and walking away again.
Pushing past my fourth mile, the words of Coons echoed in my mind,
reminding me military life is not for the faint of heart. It can be
demanding, tiring, grueling and sometimes even demoralizing - but it can
also be fulfilling and enriching, for those bold enough to seize every
After five miles, I'm convinced tiny gnomes have lit torches inside my
calves. The pain is sharp, dull and confusing as to how it can be both
at the same time. The only thing keeping my on the treadmill at this
point is the realization that I only have two miles left - even though I
feel like I could collapse at any second.
I should have lifted weights today.
"I have to get up. I have to get up."
The voice of Tech. Sgt. Angela Biggs echoed in my head, drowning out my
internal whining. We spoke for an hour one day, right before she was
wheeled into surgery at Langley Air Force Base, Va. Biggs was going
under the knife for a procedure that would hopefully alleviate the pain
she felt in her right elbow, which began during a yearlong deployment to
Afghanistan, as a medical technician with Provincial Reconstruction
It was a beautiful Sunday, Aug. 28, 2011, as she walked through the
forward operating, which rested in the shadow of Alexander the Great's
Castle. Biggs said Sundays were the most relaxing days. There were no
missions and the team could wear physical training gear, instead of a
uniform laden with 70-pounds of body armor.
"What a great day," she remembered thinking. It was the last thought she had before her entire life changed.
"I saw the ground lift up in slow-motion, coming toward me like a tidal
wave," Biggs said. "Then, everything around me started shattering and
A 400-pound vehicle borne improvised explosive device had detonated
against the wall of the FOB, less than 60-meters from where Biggs had
been standing. Disoriented, nauseous and suffering from shock, Biggs
forced herself to her feet - her medic training taking over. She
grabbed her medical bag and weapon before rushing to the aid of two Army
guards, who had been blown off the tower during the initial attack.
"Even though it all happened so fast, it felt like an eternity went by,"
she said. "I kept telling myself: 'you've got to work, you've got to do
what you've been practicing.'"
Through the pain and the chaos, Biggs managed to save more than a dozen
lives - all after suffering what would later be diagnosed as a traumatic
"It's such a hard thing to know you have because you don't see it," she
said. "To this day I still have memory loss from it. You know what's
normal for you. It's not normal to forget conversations that just
Earning the Purple Heart for her combat injuries, Biggs taught me
heroism can be born in a single moment, but recovering and moving beyond
trauma can be a long, winding road.
"The way I see life now is to keep things simple," she said. "Love your
life. Afghanistan taught me to appreciate everything in my life, because
you never know when it might be taken away."
With renewed vigor I pushed into my last mile - working through the pain
and the fatigue. Knowing that for me, this was temporary - but for
some, like Paul Blais, it was permanent.
Working as a commissary grocery bagger, Blais limped from register to
register - seen, but rarely remembered, by the people passing through
the checkout lines. It is almost impossible to fathom this soft-spoken
man as a 26-year-old senior airman, celebrating his birthday inside a
laundy room in Dhahran, Saudi Arabia, June 24, 1996.
"It was a squadron tradition to have your birthday off," the former
airborne communications systems operator said, his speech slow and
strained by a heavy slur. "I stayed in the dorm and did laundry."
As Blais and I spoke, he told me about the closeness he felt with the
members of his aircrew. They were scheduled to fly a routine mission to
Aviano Air Base, Italy - taking 50 Airmen home to their families. The
pre-flight check stated the plane was in perfect condition, with the
exception of an engine due for inspection. The crew agreed to ground the
plane and stay in the Khobar Towers until the following morning - a
morning they would never see.
"They were my second family," Blais said, his cheerful voice suddenly
turning somber. "I am the only survivor of my second family."
On the third floor of the tower, Blais was in the bathroom at 10:09
p.m., June 25, 1996, when an explosion equal to the force of nearly
30,000 pounds of dynamite tore through the building like a hot knife
through butter. It left a crater 85-feet wide and 35-feet deep.
"If I had been in my room, asleep in my bed, I wouldn't have survived,"
Blais said. "Being in the bathroom put an extra wall between me and the
explosion. Ten feet saved my life."
The floor beneath Blais gave way and he plummeted three stories,
entering a coma as soon as he hit the ground. As he lay unconscious, the
five stories above him buried him alive and left him bleeding profusely
from the head. For two-and-a-half hours, the blood flowed from Blais'
head, inching him closer to death.
After nearly two months in a coma, Blais opened his eyes to the
unfamiliar walls of the Walter Reed Army Medical Center in Washington,
D.C. He still possessed all his mental faculties, but couldn't eat,
drink, walk or talk. Even nearly 20 years later, Blais still shows signs
of the injuries, both mental and physical, that earned him a Purple
Heart and a medical retirement from the Air Force.
"I would try to remember the attack and all that would come to mind
would be feelings of sorrow and guilt," he said. "I was the one to
survive when they all died. I was the 'lucky one.'"
Wrestling with survivor's guilt, Blais said his responsibility is to
carry the legacy of his second family to future generations of Airmen.
"Freedom really is not free," he said. "My aircrew paid the price with
their lives. I paid the price by having to survive and carry on with the
knowledge of what they might have accomplished, had they lived."
With a familiar tone, the treadmill slowed - indicating my run was over,
but the memories I recalled lingered on. Paul, Angela, John, Steven and
so many others have made a profound and lasting impression on me -
throughout my Air Force career. Seven years over seven miles seemed like
hardly a drop in the bucket when compared to the insurmountable weight
of the stories they carry with them, every day.
They lived through those times. They carried on - and I, for my part, will carry them with me and remember.